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Who was Benny A. Lyde?

Benny A. Lyde was a 21 year old college senior at Long Island University, living in Brooklyn, NY. He lived on Lincoln Place in Crown Heights. Not too far from my home. In 2005 he suffered a murderous death by gunfire – all because of some beef that had nothing to do with him. His death went mostly unnoticed in the public eye – as if no unordinary tragedy had transpired. As if we hadn’t just lost a bright, young model American citizen. He was on the honor roll. He had a job and helped his mother pay bills – at the age of 21. He helped run a literacy program in East New York, Brooklyn and mentored younger children in his community. Children looked up to him. And he was looking forward to a shining future as he was finishing up his degrees in Business Management and Computer Science. The world was his. His mother has said he would reevaluate his life’s goals every five years. In 2005 (what would become his last year here), he aspired to be the first Black president of the United States.

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A couple of weeks ago, I was taking a Saturday stroll from my house to the Brooklyn Museum. I walked into a crowd of people on that beautiful, warm, sunny Saturday. The air was perfectly crisp and the sun was gentle, not too demanding. The event in Crown Heights that afternoon was a street naming ceremony at Lincoln Place and New York Ave for “Benny A. Lyde Street”

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I think I now know the taste of bittersweetness. His murderer has been captured. His mother was able to speak of him without a gush of tears. And in spite of the clear blue late summer’s sky, there was no justice.

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Whats Left of a Life Pt. III

If these sidewalks could talk…
Would they weep?
Would they be still?

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I never knew you – and it seems I never will.

Grandpa R.I.P. / Woe is me (??)

Today marks three years since the passing of my grandfather Charles DeWitt Jones. I know just about every girl loves her Grandpa, but he seriously was my favorite person. I used to say that even when he was still living. In his last year he came with me to a hardcore show to see Cipher perform. Yes, ladies and gentlemen – my grandfather brought the mosh at age 85.

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Here’s to you, Grandpa. I hope heaven’s hollering today!

…on another note…my birthday is tomorrow. I’ll be 29. My bday is preceded by two consecutive days of remembrance: Biggie died March 9th, my Grandpa died March 10th, and then there’s March 11th – my birthday. A celebration of life? A roller coaster of emotions? Just another day? This is just life – my life. Gotta live it day-by-day…

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What’s Left of a Life, Pt. 2

There’s something so vulgar about this one…
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If inanimate objects are able to retain memories, then these must be some traumatized objects.
I’m sure the human beings who once lived among these things have left a lot more behind than this trash, but still…to me, this is all I can assume I’ll ever know about these people who were once my neighbors.
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What’s Left of a Life

After you die in a nursing home. After all your remaining unclaimed belongings are put out on the curb. After scavengers hunt out the goods from the pile. After waste management comes for the weekly bulk collection, smashing your mirror, lounge chair, lamp and clothes in with the banana peels, tea bags and crumpled essays, this is what remains on the pavement as a sense of memory, or at least, a thought in my mind, to wonder more about you.
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